Dating multiple people tips
This is how to send a semi-decent online dating message in nine easy steps.
A one-sentence message probably isn’t saying enough, but you also don’t want to send a novel.
Responding to a few items in a person’s profile will take somewhere between three and eight sentences; if you find yourself writing a six-paragraph missive, work that delete key.
We can tell when your message is copied and pasted to multiple people.
There are lots of reasons why someone may sign into OK Cupid, check their messages, and not message you back. Or, they might be checking their inbox quickly, and will respond later. But the quickest way to get yourself classified as a psycho is to message someone more than once without getting a reply. Repeat messaging says, “I am a creep with boundary issues.” And sure, there’s someone out there for everyone, but you will widen your dating pool by not being a creep with boundary issues.
Respect that and don’t waste anyone’s time – including your own.
So don’t whine about your lack of a love life, don’t lament the fact that you’re such a nice guy but women are such bitches, and definitely don't threaten to kill yourself because you’re lonely. If you want extra credit (and a better chance at a response) be a little bit witty.
Remember that nearly everyone likes someone who takes an interest in them. Stick to these rules, be kinda funny, try not to be a cliché machine (you love to laugh and couldn’t live without your family and friends?! ) and your profile should be at least marginally acceptable (and hopefully won’t end up here for the wrong reasons).
Sure, it’s a pain to actually read through profiles and send unique messages to each person, but aren’t you here to find a date?
Learn a little something about the person you’re messaging, and reference that in your communiqué.